This past week I had the honor of speaking to a group of Girl Scouts about Beauty, Boys & Bullies, with owner of Fusion, Sara McConnell.
This was an enlightening experience. So I wanted to remind you all.. whether you are parents or not, this is important.
The younger generations look to us as adults for advice, inspiration and motivation. They might not act like it but they are complete and total sponges. They will remember things you say, even if it’s in passing. Which is totally scary. But be careful of the things that you say around young people. We are here to guide them to make good decisions and steer them in the right direction. I understand that sometimes our own personal struggles can get in the way of this, but it’s important to try our best to feed them with the best information.
Bullying seems to be a much larger issue than when we were kids. I know I’ve talked about this before, but I was made fun nearly my whole life. And it started at age four when I got my first pair of glasses. I was made fun of for the way I dressed, the shoes I wore (I had these sweet wing tipped Doc Martens that my grandparent’s spoiled me with for my birthday one year), the way my ears looked (they stick out a little), that I wasn’t as “fully developed” as the other girls, that I was ugly, that I was smart, that I brought my own lunch rather than having school lunches, that I had several siblings, my name… it was ANYTHING. And it hurt. I remember going home and crying most days. Wanting to change my name. Wishing I was prettier.
But then I realized that all of the things that I got made fun of for were the things that made me special. I had to figure that one out on my own, no matter how many times my parents told me.
That is partly why I started KHENRI. So that the things that you might think are “weird” or that aren’t popular so you can’t find them in the stores… I want to make those things so that you can be PROUD of who you really ARE. So that you can celebrate your personality, rather than try and hide it or change it.
I know we still face some of these issues as we are adults, which does suck. But if you were ever made fun growing up, remember how tough it was? We didn’t even have social media! I think I might have gotten AOL instant messenger in the ninth grade… Kids have twitter and facebook at eleven. And a lot of the bullying comes from these venues.
I believe there are 3 reasons why people make fun:
1) They are jealous.
2) They are unhappy with themselves.
3) They don’t understand or know about things so being weird gives them a way to make fun.
I’m not saying I’m a stellar parent, but I am doing as much as I can to educate my child in multi avenues. I make sure she experiences educational and historical things, like museums and art – this even translates to food. I try to take her to ethnic restaurants and teach her about different food types and cultures.
In conclusion, you might be a role model to a child and not even know it. They may look up to you and want to emulate everything you do. Is what your doing something that you would want them to do?
A Khenri Girl is.. kind, compassionate, friendly, welcoming, pretty on the inside which makes her pretty on the outside, unique.
Hope this kick starts your week to be a great one!